365 Days of Marriage | QueenBeady

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13.10pm. I know the time specifically because only 5 minutes before our good friend and one of our ushers was trying to force a pint of Stella down my neck before we set off in the wedding car. I can’t say that this was my finest moment and not quite how I had expected it to all start. This post marks exactly 365 days of marriage & since I walked up the aisle to meet my future Husband. Funnily enough days before my heart was racing in the same spot whilst we did a rehearsal of the wedding. Strangely my heart wasn’t pumping in quite the same, scary way. It felt natural. The last 2 years of planning had been a momentous affair. From the venue, to the food, to the bridesmaid dresses. Everything was from scratch so everything took meticulous planning to make sure everything ran smoothly. Suffice to say, it did. Without a hiccup. I was ready to finally do it & I had been since the 26th October 2012 (the day he proposed.)

As I walked up the aisle it was like I was completely blind. I knew I was smiling (like a lunatic) but I can’t remember who at or who was I nervously giggling to. All I wanted to see was my husbands face and it’s pretty much all I can recall as I walked up the tight aisle space. He grinned at me. He’s not one for emotions, but I could see in his eyes that he was excited too. It was a lovely service, ran by our local vicar who is quite frankly, the Vicar of Dibley comes to Yorkshire. She kept us strong and going at times and offered such lovely words. It was a great service and not just because it was ours, but because it felt homely, not staged or over the top. Our little country wedding without the glitz and glam.

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I have previously spoke of all the different elements of the day, but as today marks our one year anniversary I wanted to pen my thoughts over the last year of marriage. They say it’s the toughest milestone to get through and I’m pretty chuffed we are at the other side now.

Being with someone for over 8 years, marriage doesn’t make it much different to the life you already live. I can assure you most of the time it’s just the ring on your finger that reminds you of the vows you once said. But, strangely enough there have been times and moments that do reiterate that you have made your commitment to one another which make me go all fuzzy and warm inside. My darling husband has always been one for just doing as he pleases, I don’t mean that in a rotten way. What I mean is, he’s not under the thumb. We spend a lot of time together so why would I ever question if he wants to go shooting or car racing? I have my blog that I am ploughing so much time and effort in to at the moment that it’s only fair we have our own hobbies. We have been brought together through marriage but I feel that we are discovering ourselves as separate entities and also what brings us together at the same time. It’s humbling.

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Our relationship is filled with bickering, by Christ don’t I know it. With a dog and a house that feels like it is slowly shrinking around us, when he leaves his crap on the floor and I trip up I yelp and scream. My incessant whining drives him up the wall. But what would a relationship be if it were all light & roses all the time. When we have bickered I sometimes sit back and have a little chortle to myself because really it is never anything worth fighting about.

I’m slowly discovering what we both want out of life. Kids aren’t on the horizon soon, we’ve always known we are both selfish in the fact we want to do want we want to do. We both want to travel and make the most of being able to just jet off on a whim. I love that we are on the same page. Were heading to Mexico in September which will be our first long haul trip together. We need to see these beautiful places without the constraints of crying babes in arms. We’re both so eager to learn about other cultures and see beautiful things that pro-creating just isn’t on our mind. So please, I beg you, those who do, PLEASE STOP ASKING WHEN THE KIDS ARE COMING ALONG?! 

Some days I just wake up and look at my husband. He is all mine in a really scrumptious way. He is appealing on the eye, very appealing to me anyway. I know that since we got married I have applied what can only be described as a Dunlop tyre around my midriff and arms so I’m making a conscious effort to tone up and lose some weight. Of course I am doing it for me, I want to feel good and look amazing, but there is a big part of me that wants to look goddamn hot for my husband too. If people can’t open their eyes and accept that a lot of the time that is why they want to lose weight, then I think they are lying to themselves. I’m all for #girlpower but I do want to please my man too.

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Marriage really is about give and take. Rough with the smooth & all those pretentious bullshit anecdotes that people reel off to you. In the reality though, however cliché it may sound, they are true. One year has shown how strong we are as a couple/ a unit/ a family or whatever you want to refer it to & it’s so good to know that whateer the odds we are a team and we continue to grow stronger each day. We laugh together so much, he does silly things and I keel over snorting, he rolls his eyes as I spontaneously start dancing like a loon, but he loves it because it makes me, me.

I guess there really is only one thing left to say.

Mr Clayton, I love you & happy first wedding anniversary.

From your loving wife,
Bee xxx

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*All photos taken by the wonderful Jenny Prest Photography.

27 comments so far.
  • Life Through Reb’s Lens

    Congratulations! May you have many more years of happiness. x

    • Thank you so much, me too! Hehe!
      Bee xxx

  • Aww what a gorgeous post – a lot of this resonates with me too – oh god the instant ‘day after honeymoon “so when are you going to have a baby?” talk’!! xx

    Laura | Loved By Laura

    • Oh Laura, it drives us both up the wall with the incessant questioning. Can we not just be young, happy & care free? Haha!
      Bee xxx

  • El’s Fashion Fix

    Happy Anniversary lovely 🙂 Your wedding photos are absolutely gorgeous, you look beautiful and your dress is stunning! I wish you both many more years of love and happiness. Congratulations! El xx xx

    http://www.elsfashionfix.co.uk

    • Hi El,
      Thank you so much, I love my dress! I still need to get it cleaned. Our day was just so perfect for us ❤️
      Bee xxx

  • Happy anniversary! Such a lovely post to read. I completely sympathise with the babies bit and me&Mr E are in a very similar place nearly 5 years on! Here’s to your next year and years after x
    Lucy

    • Hi Lucy,
      Gordon Bennett, please teach me your coping mechanism with it? People just don’t get it do they? God forbid if we actually wanted to be young & enjoy ourselves!
      Bee xxx

  • I already said happy anniversary to you on Twitter but I need to say it again after this post! It is one of the most honest and heart warming posts I’ve ever read and I certainly felt a tear attempting to escape my eye! Congratulations on your first year of marriage and the many years that will follow!

    Jess x
    http://www.diaryofafashiondropout.co.uk

    • Awwww Jess, that is so lovely. When writing I hope to evoke some sort of emotion, I hope they were happy tears! I think I did weep a little when I wrote it. I feel so in love and wouldn’t want to change it for the world ❤️ Thank you!
      Bee xxx

  • This is so perfect – you were such a beautiful bride and your words are lovely too. Relationships are different for everyone, and I am so glad you are embracing all things that make you happy in yours! Here’s to many more years for you and Mr C! x

    Sophie Cliff

    • Hi Sophie,
      It was one day where I just felt so alive and so happy to be. Marrying the person you love is without a doubt the most exhilarating and wonderful feelings there will ever be, no relationship or marriage is perfect. I like to think that “imperfectly perfect” sums it up ❤️
      Bee xxx

  • Kel

    Aww, this is so lovely! Your photos are beautiful, you both look like you are having a ball!
    Congrats on your first year of marriage and here’s to many more! 🙂 xx

    • Hi Kel,

      We really did have a ball. It was out of this world the whole experience! I would do it all again in a heartbeat ❤️

      Bee xxx

  • I love this post because I learned so much about you and your marriage, I think it’s lovely that you can look back on this and see exactly how you felt on your first anniversary. It’s totally up to people if they want very showy, romantic displays of affection, but it seems to me that you chose a simpler and very personal route that suits you perfectly. Here’s to many more years of happiness and health!

    • Thank you so much Lyd! I just feel so in love, but it is okay to look back and know everything isn’t always hunky dory. If it is, then it’s crazy! But what I do know is that his company is the only company I want for the rest of time & his happiness makes me happy!
      Bee xxx

  • Deimante Baurinaite

    Ah this is such an honest and lovely post! Really enjoyed reading it and the photos are beautiful! I wish you many many years of happiness 🙂

    Deimante x

    http://www.sunnydei.com

    • Thanks so much Dei! Glad you enjoyed it. I hope we have many happy years too ❤️❤️
      Bee xxx

  • Congratulations! You look so beautiful!

    Jenna – Beauty And The Style

    • Thank you so much Jenna. It was the most wonderful day ❤️
      Bee xxx

  • Rebecca Armstrong

    Oh this is beautiful! Such a lovely post, it was very heart-felt and made me feel all fuzzy inside for you.. and I completely understand your feelings. xxx

    • Aww thank you so much! The whole day was so surreal, it literally brings a meaning to ”Love Drunk”
      Bee xxx

  • laura

    Sooo cute – you look so happy!

    • Oh Laura, to say it was the best day of my life would be an understatement! It really was something!
      Bee xxx

  • This is such a gorgeous post!
    Jabeen x
    http://www.spilling-the-beans.co.uk/

    • Thank you Jabeen, you are too kind! x

  • Hehe, it’s alright, I feel a bit of a fraud not writing one for our second year anniversary. I still feel the same way, except were getting older (which is scary!!!)
    Bee xxx

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