It was always going to happen. The wedding would fly past us and would be over as fast as you can say “I do” and we would be certain of our reality. Married life.
I wondered & wondered in the 18 month run up to our day of how I would cope after the excitement, the stress, the planning and the all round overwhelming experience of a wedding after it had all happened.
Everyone gives you advice on what you should and shouldn’t do for a wedding. Everyone has their two penneths worth of thoughts and feelings of what constitutes a good wedding. But no one prepares you for after that day?
I was definitely scared. Scared that I wouldn’t have any other hobbies or big events to plan afterwards. What would my spare time be doing now?
Well I can tell you, after a few little teary moments after we got back off honeymoon. I can assure you with two little words. IT’S FINE.
You don’t need to worry anymore for all you brides to be. It’s fine.
You can finally buy that handbag you’ve wanted without worrying about the wedding fund. It’s fine.
Your nights aren’t spent bickering about who sits with who and what flavour the cake should be. It’s fine.
You don’t have squabbling bridesmaid to make happy anymore. It’s fine.
And most importantly, you have your brand new husband or wife staring back at you everyday knowing that they have given you their heart and will now live your happy lives together. IT. IS. FINE.
If I had known this I think I would have relaxed more. It’s not about all the fact planning and what not, what really matters is that you have a happy marriage at the end of it all. That’s the key. You can have buttercream icing on your cake, you can peonies and roses in your bouquet, you can have the fancy smancy stuff. But what you will ALWAYS have is your lifelong partner.
For all of you wondering and for those of you who are not (yes, nothing I have wrote today is groundbreaking!) if Mr C & I survived it all. And the answer is yes, we did what we wanted through & through! We are more stronger than ever. He is my rock and everyday I just want to make him smile. The feeling is mutual. Despite people proclaiming that “a piece of paper means nothing!” I can assure you it has for us. I cannot wait for the next time that I can refer to him as my husband, the next time I look at him playing with his wedding band… It is just a lovely, peaceful feeling inside.
So just remember, it (will) be fine.
Rebecca xxx
