Another Instagram notification. A shiny, curated image of a babe who is smiling, totally bossing it, signing deals, eating brunch with friends, just getting back from the gym, looking effortless and cooking up a super tasty, healthy evening dinner.
A new blog post has popped up, someone who is again smiling at the camera, talking about careers, looking straight up hella good and juggling about twenty-seven plates in life whilst still totally rocking it without having a mental breakdown.
Why can’t I be like that?
To the outside world, we all look like we’re #BossingIt in one way or another. But the reality is, we all feel like we’re treading water at some point in our lives. The feeling of “Imposter Syndrome” is rife within the blogging community, and probably human kind as we know it. I know so many who have spoken of it. Hell, I’m probably the world’s worst for it. I’m constantly questioning if I belong in the Blogosphere, I’m not the best writer in the world, I’m not as profound as some and I certainly don’t tick that typical-blogger-esque style either.
Even worse, as much as the #BloggersBlogAwards have given me a massive confidence boost, every now & then I panic. I feel like a fraud for even being in one shortlist, let alone three! There are so many amazing babes in all categories that I could easily walk away from the night without any award – I guess I am okay with that and can accept that fate if I have to, but a little piece of me inside is just hoping that I don’t have to fear that rejection.
As much as I preach about the fact that Uni isn’t everything, I often question myself because I feel that others might look down on me because I haven’t had a further educational background. The feeling of being inferior to others is one heart-shattering emotion that doesn’t get any easier.
When I quit my last job, as much as it was hard to say goodbye to the exciting opportunities and a great bunch of people, I walked in to a job that allowed me to be more flexible with my time. It opened up a whole new world for me that I didn’t think was possible and because our business is around Education, during school holidays we grab a quick bite to eat and get to leave a little earlier. And do you know what…
I’m getting to the gym.
I’m cooking and eating dinner before 6pm.
I’m getting blog posts ready, left, right and centre.
I can respond to all those lovely comments you leave me on my Instagram page.
I can visit friends and family on a more frequent basis.
All those unread emails are getting dealt with.
And boy, does it feel so bloody good?
Time management and making fast, clever decisions are what can get you that extra bit of breathing space to do exactly what you want. If, like I was, you are finding things a bit overwhelming it is time to start re-evaluating how you can change parts of your life to make sure you give yourself that extra bit of “you time” to get back on track.
Speak with work. See if there is a way that you could start earlier or later a couple of days a week in lieu of losing a bit of your break during the day. It’s not always a possibility depending on your management, so go with concrete evidence why you feel you need this and show that you won’t let things slide if you do cut your hours at work.
Wake up a little earlier. Yes, sleep is one of the best things you can do for your body, but why not try heading to bed a little earlier than normal and waking up an hour earlier. Some of the best bloggers I know get up early and create some of the best content before even the mice wake up so maybe that is something that might work for you.
Seize the moment. I know we crave the sofa, a cuppa and a bit of Netflix and chill after work, but take yourself off to the gym straight after work (or before if you are feeling super energetic!) because it will give way more energy to enjoy the rest of your evening. I’m always really motivated when I come home.
Bulk Plan. I’m talking meal prep, photo editing for Instagram, blog post writing. Get everything done in bulk so you aren’t having to dip in and out of things all the time. I don’t know about you, but my brain feels very messy when I work like that. I like to get tasks out-of-the-way, and not drag them on.
Go off-piste. Remember to allow yourself to go off-piste and enjoy things that aren’t in your schedule. A bit of spontaneity never hurt anybody and can actually be one of the most inspiring things you can do for yourself. Don’t punish yourself for enjoying yourself when you know there are other tasks to be done. We only get one shot at making it a good life.
Don’t be afraid to say NO. We can all get fear of “FOMO” but sometimes we do have to say no, if I overbook I often get myself in such a tiswas about how I’m going to divide my time that I can make myself quite ill. I’ve learnt what I want to say no and say yes to over the last year or so and it only keeps getting easier.
Remember, “we have the same amount of hours in the day as Beyoncé.”
So, yes. I think we can have it all, if you allow yourself to make it happen and work for you because at the moment I am living proof of it and lets face it, I’m the biggest f@$k up of them all. LOLZ.
My last & final tip is, DON’T BEAT YOURSELF UP if you feel you are dropping the ball. WE HAVE TO REMEMBER that we are only human. Enjoy it when we are bossing it but let’s not condemn ourselves when we aren’t
Do you have any hints and tips to make the most of the little hours in the day?
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I'm Bee. 27 year old who is finally starting to understand herself. A Scorpio that's too nice to use that sting in her tail, regularly found searching for holidays or online shopping. Happiest when being fed, travelling & spending time with Mr C.